My question is: I have been approved for my SSI and I'm currently living in the same house as my ex-husband. We have separate rooms—we are not a couple, he doesn't take care of me at all—but he has a good job. Can the SSA use his income toward my case?
When determining your eligibility and benefit amount for Supplemental Security Income (SSI), Social Security generally does not count against you the income or resources of an ex-spouse. However, the fact that you continue to live with your ex-spouse complicates matters somewhat.
Fortunately, the SSA's employee manual known as the "POMS" addresses just this situation. Under POMS rule SI 00501.150(G)(2), when two individuals who have previously been married continue to live together after divorce, they will not be treated as a married couple for SSI purposes as long as they no longer "hold themselves out" as a married couple and they present evidence of their divorce.
SSA will likely require you to provide a copy of the divorce decree and a statement explaining why you continue to live together (for example, due to illness or financial difficulties).
When a question exists as to whether individuals hold themselves out as being married, the SSA will require a signed statement from one or both people describing the nature of their relationship. If there is any evidence that either of the individuals still present themselves to other as married, the SSA will probe further, asking questions such as: